The way it should be

I like dating men, but I wouldn't mind dating women either. I wouldn't say I've ever dated a woman, though I've been intimate. I definitely know I'm attracted to women, though. I know some people say if you're bisexual, you're greedy, but being bisexual isn't about being with two people on the go - it's just about being attracted to both sexes - it doesn't mean you're going to be with both at once. One's sexuality has got nothing to do with whether they're greedy or not.

I think women are beautiful and sexy. I'm not saying men aren't, but I find women Sexy too. It doesn't mean I'm attracted to all women. That's one thing I don't understand: when someone's gay, some people get scared thinking the gay person fancies every person of their sex that they meet (including them). It's not like that. Does every hetero fancy everyone of the opposite sex? I think not. So why should it be any different for homo/bisexuals? I certainly don't fancy every man/woman I see - that would be utterly exhausting.I never really know who I'll be attracted to. I couldn't give you a list of what attracts me because it redefines itself often. For example, there's a woman I met once - short with long dark hair, piercing blue eyes and great legs. But it wasn't just that - it was her voice, her independence, her frankness and everything else. I thought she was utterly sexy - inside and out. My ex boyfriend was big, cuddly, sensitive, completely lovable with long eyelashes to adore. But then, I've been attracted to tomboys and also men who might be considered slightly autistic. So, yes, I never really know who I'll be attracted to. And that's fine 'cos I'm open to what life has to show me - what it has to teach me about myself through the people I meet.

I Adore women and I adore men. I think they are both lovable and not quite so lovable when they want to be - it's called being human. My sexuality doesn't define all of who I am, but it is a part of who I am and I wouldn't change it for anything.